15 Sep Things are Getting Real with Reality Reframed
Over the past few months, I’ve made a commitment to myself to start to show glimpses into my real life; my chaos, my clutter, my learning curves, my process. More than ever before I’ve been hyper-aware of the damage that can be done by taking in too much perfection. It’s just not good for anyone to browse blogs, Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest when picture after picture shows a perfect life everywhere else, for everyone else but us. Although I’m pretty good at not putting on my comparison pants, I have decided that I don’t ever want anyone to think that I must have a perfect life because of the images I share. Not that my images are perfect, but I do work really hard and showing the magic of my life. It makes me happy. Even still, it’s not showing the big picture.
I’ve grappled with how to accomplish sharing the visual reality of my life without scrapping all of my artistic sensibilities. After all, first and foremost, I consider myself an artist and it takes a lot of thought and creative energy to make my art and so of course, I want to share the art that I make and that I love. I mean, what artist wants to show work they don’t like? It’s not that I don’t like my life. Not at all. I love my life. But, I don’t love everything about my life. In fact, I struggle with many things, like mood swings and exhaustion, disorganization and clutter. But, my life is my art and the photographs I take are artistic expressions of who I am and the parts of my life that I do love. Each photo is a little snippet of how I choose to see my life, despite the struggle, despite the mess. My fear however is that snippet, that tiny slice of what I capture in my frame may not show enough of what the reality is.
Light bulb moment.
I figure instead of abandoning the art I love, I will show the reality along side of it. This is how the idea of reality reframed came about; sharing a snapshot of the bigger picture first and right next to it the snippet of I choose to look at it. I’ve never really done anything quite like this before but by revealing this part of the picture I hope that anyone watching will feel less alone in their own imperfect life. And I also hope that I can really drive the point home that you can excavate photo-worthy magic from everyday life, no matter how messy it gets. It’s part of the practice of elevating the everyday.
I guess with that, it’s time to start sharing my reality reframed.
So there it is. Three shots that show the real and the reframed version of the landscape around here. I didn’t move anything around to get the reframed shots. I just found something lovely amidst the mess and got in nice and close. It’s how I take most of my pictures, I frame the parts of my life that I love before I click the shutter. And, one last thing; if you think it’s easy to share the reality that’s as messy as this, you’re wrong. My stomach is in knots. No one wants to openly share a look behind the curtain, do they? Well, regardless how difficult it may be, I’m doing it anyway. Gulp.
Now, I’d better hit publish before I change my mind.
MariePosted at 22:51h, 15 September
Tracey – you are eloquent, magically artistic AND above all, completely normal! Phew!! 😉 Thanks for sharing your wise words & lovely images.
ReneePosted at 19:11h, 09 October
I love it! I was actually thinking today about how it’s so easy to put the shiny-est version of yourself on display in the blogging world and how detrimental that can be to your readers. Thank you for sharing!!
KristalPosted at 03:15h, 16 September
Love it! Thanks for taking the plunge. I love seeing that other people have lives that are REAL…that their lives are just as messy as mine with laundry and dust and dirty dishes. 🙂
ChristinaPosted at 03:23h, 16 September
I love this! The beauty of chaos can be an amazing thing! Thanks for hitting publish!
ElizabethPosted at 04:48h, 16 September
I triple-love this idea, Tracey.
melissaPosted at 04:52h, 16 September
thank you for your courage to show the real. and thank you for your generosity to share the reframe, your gorgeous artistry. this perspective shift helps me literally see a way out of the negative spiral that has been consuming me. get in close, see a moment of beauty. grateful, tracey.
StephaniePosted at 05:56h, 16 September
I love this idea! The chaos is life lived, there’s much beauty to be found there if we look for it. Thank you for sharing it with us.
ChristinePosted at 06:01h, 16 September
beautiful ~ all of it
i so relate 🙂
Jen LeePosted at 06:03h, 16 September
Cheering you on over here. YES to this, and more, please!
TamaraPosted at 06:31h, 16 September
Well…thank you SO much for the reminder. My lovely life is scattered with things I don’t always love, as well. Seeing your “reframings” is a great way to start the week.
We should all strive to see the lovely – even if it is surrounded by a bit of imperfect!
(O.K. , sometimes a lot of “imperfect”!)
Marina D-KPosted at 08:56h, 16 September
This is so beautiful and so authentic! Thank you! What a great first post to see this morning!
Blissmamaof3Posted at 09:27h, 16 September
Bravo on your bravery and imagination to accomplish both your goals of showing reality and honoring your art! Amazing how a creative crop makes all the difference and truly elevates the everyday. Thank you once again for the inspiration!
Barbara HurstPosted at 09:46h, 16 September
Love the thought process here Tracy. Great way to display the beauty in everyday.
JenaPosted at 09:47h, 16 September
The lovely among the mess. I love this–to me it’s so much about context, knowing that every image (or often for me, string of words) always, always exists within and emerges from an entire context that is often, usually, not apparent to the viewer/reader. Deciding when to reframe, and in your case choosing to, feels like such the work of being an artist–and a teacher. And mostly, a human who sees beauty in the chaos but doesn’t want to paint only “perfect” pictures.
sperlygirlPosted at 09:54h, 16 September
what a wonderful idea and glimpse – brave, bold, and beautiful!
moosh in indy.Posted at 09:59h, 16 September
FranciscaPosted at 10:05h, 16 September
I really love this post. I love how you show me to see beauty in chaos, and I love to see how you are able as an artist to create such beautiful photos. It is really touching to see and very inspiring too! It is very honest and authentic. Thank you so much for sharing these photos!!!
Karla PittsPosted at 10:06h, 16 September
Oh, my goodness, I love this blog post.
I struggle so. I am a piler and not a filer.
Thank you for the reality check.
LauraPosted at 10:06h, 16 September
“Beauty from ashes”. A partial quote from the bible. Or as a dear friend of mine says, “finding the beauty in the ugly”. It is what came to mind first as I looked at your images. Taking something not so photogenic and making it beautiful. This IS real life. This IS brave. And I thank you for sharing this glimpse into your life.
Sabine HyldtoftPosted at 10:31h, 16 September
Tracey…. I love this post – you are so very generous with sharing your life, your thoughts, and your ART with us…. (and your little bits of mess). This is incredibly inspiring for me… I tend to always try to hide the mess or delete the not so pretty photos, but I think this will give me the nudge I need to find the beauty in the mess without re-staging everything…. Thank you!
… Sabine H.
colettePosted at 10:55h, 16 September
wow! What a refreshing idea!! That is fantastic! I am super inspired
JenniferPosted at 10:55h, 16 September
A great big HOORAY for you for being so brave. Because really, all of our lives have that messy look to it and we always feel the need to hide it. But there truth is, admits the mess there is beauty. Knowing that we do not have to have a perfectly tidy life to get the beautiful shot we dream up in our head….. all we have to do is seek out the beauty….now that is powerful.
Tracey, you are so brave and such an inspiration. Thank you so much for sharing the big picture and the beauty you found within it.
I adore you!
MyriamPosted at 10:59h, 16 September
you just keep getting better and better…
SuebobPosted at 11:55h, 16 September
I love this post and I appreciate this post. The only people I know who have perfectly organized, tidy lives don’t have a lot else going on (except my sister. She’s some kind of superhuman). Showing the beauty AND the chaos is brilliant.
KimPosted at 12:02h, 16 September
Thank you for this! <3
Donna G.Posted at 12:12h, 16 September
Totally cool, Tracey! I wonder how I could adapt this for guests in our house. Maybe darkened glasses with only a little pinhole in the middle? =)
Angie KylePosted at 12:14h, 16 September
Just what I needed today. Thank you, thank you. Yes, it is overwhelming for us to try to have a perfect home so that our shots are perfect. I think we assume yours is perfect. What a relief to know you have all the same clutter as the rest of us. And now I feel totally inspired to find the beauty amongst the clutter. I had no idea.
melodyPosted at 12:22h, 16 September
Sister Friend, you refresh my spirit. ox
Renee B.Posted at 12:29h, 16 September
What a great idea! I’m going to give this one a try. I even have a housekeeper twice a week (Thank God I am extremely allergic to dust) and I still can’t keep the house straight. My husband (playfully) says I spread things out like an oil slick!
Cyndy ReckerPosted at 12:40h, 16 September
Thank you for sharing. This really helps those of us who have trouble with composition. It really is refreshing to see real life captured.
stefaniereneePosted at 14:04h, 16 September
love this and YES! bring on the imperfections and the reality 🙂
LaurelPosted at 15:03h, 16 September
LOVE THIS!!! Thanks so much for “pulling back the curtain,” and also for the inspiration of how to find the beauty amidst the craziness of real life. True inspiration!
SwirlyPosted at 15:35h, 16 September
LOVE this SO MUCH!!!
Susan RomickPosted at 16:12h, 16 September
I love it! I have often taken pictures of kids or things that I absolutely love until I look at the background and see things that are not so lovely and then I cringe. I always say, get over yourself, this is life.
Good for you Tracey, we do need a reminder that the people we admire are not always the picture of perfection and we don’t have to be either. Life is too short. Thanks for sharing.
CurvedfeatherPosted at 17:45h, 16 September
Love this! It’s such a refreshing perspective! Just in case you missed it there was a fun article in the NY Times Sunday about the positive correlation between mess and creativity.
MelaniePosted at 21:05h, 16 September
Thank you! You did yourself and all of us a big favour. You are one soulful and genuine woman. I think your “reality reframed” idea borders on genius. I hope this has been liberating for you. Beautiful.
KarenPosted at 22:23h, 16 September
Tracey , You ROCK!! Thanks for sharing. The ability to see beauty everywhere is so cool!! One day I also realized the only way to live in the NOW was to appreciate where I was, dirty dishes, cluttered desk and all!…just keep loving life and smiling.
StaceyPosted at 18:42h, 17 September
Love, love, love this!! What a terrific idea! I feel so much better about my mess. I put on my comparison pants really easily… now that I have that term for them, I hope to use them use! Thank you so much for sharing this part of your life!
XimenaPosted at 19:51h, 17 September
Love this! Thanks for a much-needed reality check, Tracy. It’s really helpful to see people we admire SO MUCH leading normal, mundane lives too. Your art is beautiful and oh-so-inspiring!
kellyPosted at 20:17h, 17 September
it does take a lot of courage to share the less than perfect parts of our lives. but what a gift you have given all of us. thank you so much.
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Nancy BarnesPosted at 12:51h, 18 September
Tracey, this just shows how magical you really are! And thanks for a look at real life and the art you see in it.
WendyPosted at 13:07h, 18 September
I do appreciate you sharing. I’m currently helping my neighbor who had some recent surgery and I pop over when she needs something. Having to go up to her bedroom, for me, a relief. I thought that I was the only one that lived with clutter in life. I’m not saying I wish I could just toss it because by the time I do get around to ebaying it….it will be worth nothing anyway. It really is refreshing and made me relax and let my clutter go and focus today in your class. And then I came across this post. I think someone is trying to tell me something. Spend more time doing the things I love and enjoy over worrying about the clutter. So, thanks for honesty. I feel so much better for have seen it.
Vicki RossPosted at 13:37h, 18 September
So glad I subscribed to Moosh! Her post today led me direct to you. I’ve heard about the Facebook syndrome where everything is perfect and comments goosh with compliments and praise! So much so that in one of my FB groups I won’t allow just random image postings of art just created without some commentary about the challenge encountered and resolved.
Just his send on a candid email to an internet friend about having to help our 13 year old Schnauzer cross the Rainbow Bridge yesterday, with the note that I didn’t think I could blog about it. SEE? nothing but sunshine and roses in my life either!!!
Sue TaylorPosted at 14:34h, 18 September
Oh this is such a BRILLIANT idea Tracey. It would be a lovely thing to do as a prompt in our Elevate the Everyday class but that is already written. It would make a wonderful stand alone class too. Imagine the real AND the creative and possibilities!!!
pamPosted at 16:07h, 18 September
Thank you for being courageous and sharing the real and the reframed. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you have a wonderful eye for the beauty in the everyday. We all have our own reality. Now to look for the beauty in it.
MichellePosted at 17:19h, 18 September
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Some days I feel my house needs to be clean and chores done before I get to play with my camera. You have just given me permission to grab my camera no matter what the state of my house and see the beauty among the clutter. Thank you.
JessicaPosted at 17:56h, 18 September
I love this idea! Thank you for sharing!!!
MyePosted at 19:55h, 18 September
thank you for sharing this, Tracey. I’ve always struggled about how to give better shots and not show the not so pretty side of the daily life but this concept is just the opposite and i love it! from now on, i’ll make sure to capture the pretty as well as the not so pretty side 🙂
kelly bartonPosted at 20:47h, 18 September
messy. perfection. truth.
AmandaPosted at 07:19h, 20 September
Life is so beautiful, the messy and the sublime side by side. Gorgeous.
Stubblejumpin GalPosted at 12:19h, 20 September
This is a great idea, Tracey. You are using photography, of course, but we’re talking about the same thing really:
how to be truthful and honest while still making choices about what to show and what not to show, and how.
I have similar concerns about my handwritten journals, which I’ve kept for some 40 years, because what is written there may sometimes be intensely focused upon and very true at the moment it’s written, but it sure doesn’t provide the big picture and I think it would be misleading to anyone reading. Any situation that appears to be the main course is so flavoured with that moment that it doesn’t always include the aperatif or the dessert and it certainly can have little to no bearing on the “meal” I have later that day or the next morning. Yet a reader might draw conclusions about me from one day’s entry. This is why even though a handwritten journal seems intimate and personal — and it is — it’s not an accurate portrayal at all. It gives only a small slice of my perceptions and doesn’t always go on to offer the lessons learned, the values adjusted, and so on. I may change my mind the next day but never get around to writing about that.
I guess it’s not the same as your photographs, but this is what your idea makes me think of!
Kerri.Posted at 19:47h, 21 September
My first time visiting your site, but I really love this. Thanks for zooming out to show the context, but cropping to show the beauty. I really liked both versions of the photos.
Kay TPosted at 07:04h, 22 September
Amazing description of what most of do on facebook. Thanks for being so brave.
DianaPosted at 17:49h, 23 September
love your honest, open, vulnerability
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ElizabethPosted at 09:58h, 29 September
I love this idea so much! I also love to take photos from my life and work hard to make them beautiful. (Though I am far from professional). I think you articulate beautifully why we re-frame our life images to take away the clutter – its not because we’re all trying to hide the harder realities of our lives… its because we’re trying to make something beautiful out of them. And who doesn’t love to share something she’s made?
Also, your reframed photos ae like a lesson in how to see the beauty in the banal. What a great post!
ChasityPosted at 19:50h, 03 October
Tracey thank you so much for this honest and heartfelt post. I found your reality photos to be every bit as beautiful as the artful photos (in fact I think both types of photos convey their own unique magic). You rock!
MaryPosted at 07:28h, 13 October
Tracy i love this. My husband and i have been involved with Marriage ministry and the one thing you have to do is learn to be transparent about your own life to reach others lives. Here you have been just that. It makes you real and relatable. The comnents show that this is most of us with busy lives. Thanks for being real. I love your heart, your vision and your work.
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